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When the world seems grim, it can lead to cultivate gratitude, perspective and balance ourselves in a place with more hope and optimism. Here are some techniques can be used, if their opinion could use some lift.

Sometimes the little things : And this is good news: you can not do much to satisfy a spiritual place where you “stop and smell the roses.” Maybe some little things to make a big difference in the recovery of their equilibrium
* Keep a “happy notes” of the file. Every time someone writes something good about yourself to read the file, if your self-esteem needs a boost. Remember that you are much more valuable than you might think at this time.
* At dinner with his family to divide into a “gratitude”: something large or small, which took place the same day for which you are grateful. There is also a good way to start and sustain a conversation.
* Or is it your blessing every time you were writing a diary gratitude every night, just one thing, just all day (and is more likely to go on), and quickly add annotations to remind us that ordinary life can be quite large. One day, however, as perhaps the best thing I can say is that it’s fine with – tomorrow is truly a new day.

Be : On a shelf in my house I have huge golden letters the words: “be present”. With this message I want to say that there is no greater gift you can give to someone (or yourself) that is completely “there” at the moment: listen, participate and enjoy. Requires a whole, do not go faster than what comes after that do not interrupt, and asserting that the attention will be paid by their body language. But why? I think the best reason is that more than any conversation or activities, alone or with others, showing that you care for others, and we move into gratitude. It ‘difficult to focus so completely, without seeing the person – or thing or event or a moment – to shine through the intrinsic value. I can not say I’m so good, but remember the letters of gold, which is a standard that I fought for every day. These words are part of what I end my letter of leave, like this: “Be grateful to be present was impressed …” (To make an impression, I think, can not bring the gratitude and respect.)

Try a little ‘of kindness : No doubt, car stickers urge us to “commit random acts of kindness”, and I saw a few years ago, I discovered a week in February that he had called Random Acts of kindness week by the laws of the goodness of the Foundation a non- profit organization whose mission is, of course, to inspire people to practice kindness. I told a friend of his, and he said that the idea of ​​randomness is never in tune with him because he, being beaten at random, by definition, are lost or white – and often lost. Being recognized on the alert for opportunities of kindness, in which no one could hope for a good cause, but said that the case “means that there are times when you are not trying to be” friendly “and that’s okay.” He continued: “The orientation of the systematic acts of kindness makes more sense for me: the development of the personal habits of kindness and consideration for others, a kick in relatively automatically become routine in our lives and keeping all the more for open widely and effectively for the routinization. doors for others it is a trivial example, but typical of the “morality” as goodness. Once you have established a model to help food pantries or donation of blood without the stimulus of special units or events somewhere else. ” I like the idea of ​​my friend very much, especially because the quality – and the compassion that takes the form of volunteering – the media lead us to a point of perspective, balance and gratitude. To others in ways large and small, reminds us that we are not alone in our struggles, our concerns are much smaller concern for others and that others of what they enjoy, however imperfectly.

Speaking of imperfection : Have you heard of Feng Shui. Perhaps you’ve heard of Vastu. But what about wabi-sabi? Wikipedia definition reads as follows: “Wabi-sabi represents a comprehensive view of the world, or the Japanese aesthetic centered acceptance of the transience of aesthetic is sometimes described as a beauty that is imperfect and incomplete, wabi-sabi aesthetic described time … features include asymmetry, roughness. . simplicity, modesty, intimacy and stimulation of the natural process. “Wabi-sabi is the most obvious characteristic of traditional Japanese beauty …. If an object or expression can be done in us a sense of serene melancholy, spiritual longing, the object could be said that wabi sabi .- is usually all that is true, recognize three things simple. Nothing is permanent, nothing is done, and nothing is perfect ”
Aha! Nothing is perfect. So, not only to accept the imperfection, but it would be nice to celebrate, indeed! What will happen (a lot) anyway, so you might as well take this new way of seeing and the objective, the real beauty of imperfection. You may like to have fun, maybe even praise him, and certainly see it as another indication that grows healthy sense of balance and perspective to go on through life very sensitive.

Cut the concern : Reduce your worries and stress can certainly contribute to promote the resulting perspective, gratitude and balance. Why do we so often, but rarely the attention that most of the things we worry about never come to fruition, you can not change, be too pessimistic, petty or stupid or simply … Why bother? This right may not cultivate a serious prospect. Then reduce negativity. When you do something uncomfortable to think of many ways or answers. Why are so few things are really worth it, the approach could also be a situation of unknown result, with a positive, rather than a negative environment. But what if there is a real disaster? The concern is still unusable, but if you take action, because it can actually do something good. And things one day at a time when the alternative is too scary. The concerns of the day today, but do not have the problems of tomorrow, before doing so.

A final concern anti-tactic: Whenever I have many things in my head, all writing, the date of the paper files and on for three or four weeks with it. When the list appears again, I must point out that perhaps some of the concerns are still active, but I have solved others and some have set their own or at least improved. This means that my concerns would not have done well – but I knew where the list if you want to roll up my concerns in the meantime. Strangely (or not), but if you write something, I feel better and I’m not so strong, you have to wallow around. Point of view, balance and gratitude: they bring a sense of hope and optimism that you need to see through the dark times.